How NOT to Treat a Fan

Today’s post is about an unfortunate encounter that I recently had with a musician out on the scene. I’m not going to say where this happened and for the sake of this person’s band mates, I’m not going to out the group. But because I’m lazy, I’m also not going to dance around a bunch of pronouns to neutralize gender for the purpose of protecting this person's identity. The musician in question is a guy, but it does't matter anyway. This is a cautionary tale for all…

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10 Alternatives to Losing Your Mind on Thanksgiving

  Uh oh, here comes Thanksgiving. I personally dig it. I love the lazy hang and the big feed. But for a lot of folks, this holiday has the potential for all kinds of trouble. Between trying relatives, disasters in the kitchen, overcharged expectations and bad behavior from inebriates and other ne're do wells, the day can become wrought with stress and unpleasantness. Even the sanest human being can become temporarily unhinged. If you feel yourself dancing that line, please consider one of the following…

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Gratitude When It Sucks

Thanksgiving is just a couple of days away and for the whole month of November, people have been running around talking about what they're grateful for. We've seen it everywhere- Facebook, blog posts, reader boards at the grocery store and so on. Most of us have plenty of reasons to be grateful. If you're reading this, high-speed Internet is one of them. You could also probably toss in a warm place to live, indoor plumbing and, quite possibly, a running vehicle. Given these and other…

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grace, ambiguity & gratitude

Tomorrow is Thanksgiving, the beautiful autumn celebration of communion, food and giving thanks. Many of you will be gathering with friends and family over sumptuous feasts and lively conversation. Some of you will be traveling, enduring icy roads or TSA pat downs to reach your waiting loved ones. I will be nestled into my apartment. My boys (Emmett, age 17 and Enzo, age 13) will be with their father, and the three of them are attending a soiree at the home of family friends. I…

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